The Importance Of Transmitting To Children The Desire To Excel
Children give up when they cannot draw a certain figure or build the figure with pieces that appear in the game box. Apparently this is normal and will happen more than once, but it is our job as parents to motivate them to fight for what they want to the end. In this it consists of transmitting to the children the desire to excel.
Not snubbing children is always good. But getting them used to leaving everything they start in the middle might not be the best decision.
Another position that is not advisable is to complete the adults everything that they cannot complete. What is the correct message then? Easy: “he who perseveres, reaches”.
Let us think that the future of our children may depend on this magical lesson that will invite them not to give up. Perseverance, improvement and optimism are ideas that cannot be absent from the minds of the little ones at home.
Today’s child is under constant pressure
Today’s world is very technical. Today’s difficulties have nothing to do with artistic and athletic abilities only. Now the need to learn to master new technologies and appropriate them is added.
That is why it is essential to teach them to manage emotions and, especially, frustration when something goes wrong. The goal is to build children with emotional intelligence to overcome small misunderstandings.
It is also important that children see their parents complete everything they set out to do. But not handling it well could frustrate any child when they see that their results are not the same. Allowing for abandonment and pushing things to be perfect are destructive positions.
Our message should be one of motivation, support and leadership
Having said all of the above, it is important what we say to the child when he feels that he has failed in something. An own anecdote that explains to the little one that the achievements are progressive and require perseverance is an excellent idea.
Another fundamental aspect is in the emotional management of the child with respect to his little frustrations. They must be able to express what they think and we must listen carefully. Otherwise, the annoyance will increase and we will be encouraging the little one to leave everything in half.
Direct listening and a good argument will foster what we popularly know as: motivation. The ideas will begin to arrive and soon the children will be back at it again.
Our goal is to invite you to try again and again until you feel good about yourself. On the other hand, they need to know when to give up. Let them know extremes are harmful.
Transmit to children the desire to improve: highlight their improvements
“Mom I want to draw but I don’t get ideas.” The child sees that his drawing has not been as he wanted and puts the sheet of paper aside, annoyed. It is probably locked and the end result has not been what you imagined. At this point we must explain how success works.
What children must begin to internalize is the idea that every process of learning and realization is progressive and that through practice it will achieve its objectives.
Every time he tries again, we must encourage him and give him constructive criticism so that he can continue with good will to the end.
The importance of letting children do their homework
To convey to children the desire to excel, it is necessary to let them do their homework. In the case of more complex tasks, the logical thing is that we guide and help them. But we must not intervene to such an extent that we cancel their intervention in the process. In the easy tasks, the right thing to do is to supervise and let them do the rest.
Children whose parents are in charge of doing their homework do not take responsibility or learn to cope properly with situations. They will be little persevering people who will seek to lean on others to avoid realities and, above all, make an effort.
Finally, to convey to children the desire to excel, we must give our own example of perseverance. After all, what can we demand of them if as adults we throw in the towel?
